“Come to Me, I am all you need.” As I sit down, preparing myself to write a post about singleness, the Lord so sweetly reminded me He is all we need as Come to Me by Bethel played on my spotify. As we get closer to the “ever dreaded” Valentine’s Day, I see more and more guys and girls freaking out about whether or not they’re going to have a valentine on this day. As lovingly as I possibly can say this…who cares?? Valentine’s Day is a silly, made up holiday. Don’t get me wrong, I love Valentine’s Day whether I’m single or in a relationship. Since it’s a silly, made up holiday, it can be whatever we make it to be. I love love. Love in general. I love letting the people in my life know how much they mean to me and I’ve always seen this as a day to have fun with pink and sparkles and chocolate and love on the people in my life. But this post isn’t about Valentine’s Day, it’s about getting down to the heart of things and celebrating how sweet being single is and should be.
Can we just get a couple things straight before I go in? There is NOTHING wrong with you if you are single. You are not weird or ugly or unloved if you are single. There’s something so beautiful about trusting in God’s plan and waiting on the one He has in store for you. If I’m being honest, I’ve never been so content in a season of my life as I am right now in this season of singleness. There’s so much freedom in being on your own and finding who you are in Christ. Your worth doesn’t come from who you’re dating or who you aren’t dating, it comes from what Christ did for you on the cross. And I will stress that until my last breath. Because you have to know that what God says about you is the ONLY thing that will ever matter. The world thinks being single is weird? I think jumping from relationship to relationship, giving little pieces of your heart away, is weird. Because it hurts you and it damages your heart, making you believe that the only way you are whole is if you have a significant other. But until you fall in love with the One who made you, you will never be whole. No guy or girl will make you whole. Ever ever ever. Please get that in your head right now. God alone fills that emptiness that we try to find in the things of this world.
The point of marriage is to get a glimpse of the love God has for us. Sex and intimacy with your spouse is the closest picture we will ever get on earth of the kind of intimacy Christ desires to have with us. Your spouse is someone you should be able to do ministry with, to serve God with, and to glorify God with. Marriage is two sinners coming together with Christ at the center. But the thing about that is, each person has their own baggage and sins. Marriage is beautiful, but it’s messy and it takes work. “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” (1 Corinthians 13:4-7) Are you ready for that? The real, raw, messy love, or do you like the idea of love and having a significant other that buys you things and takes you on cute dates? Because love is so much more than that. So until, God has gotten us to a place where we desire God more than a relationship, than we are not ready for that. Because your future spouse will undoubtedly let you down. And if you’re putting your worth in that person, you will be crushed when that happens. But if you’re putting your worth in Christ, you’ll be able to forgive them, serve them, and love them as Christ loves us.
Rejoice in your time of singleness because it’s a time to get to know your beautiful Savior in a way like never before. We are the BRIDE of Christ and there will never be a relationship so sweet and rich as the one with our precious Savior. The Father pursues us in ways no human ever will. He loves us so much more deeply than anybody on earth will ever love us. His love knows no boundaries. Christ went to the cross just to possibly have the opportunity to have a relationship with us. How beautiful is that?? Would you ever think about acting like you were single once you were married? Most people would answer with a resounding no. So why are you acting like you’re single when you are the bride of Christ? Yes, you may be single when it comes to earthly relationships, but if you are a follower of Christ, you are in the most precious, intimate relationship you will EVER be in. So don’t try to fill yourself with the things or the people of this world. Don’t cling to worthless idols and don’t make yourself the Lord of your life. God will not share, He wants every bit of you. If you wouldn’t cheat on your one-day spouse, then who are you to cheat on your Savior? Don’t rush into relationships, don’t settle, and don’t try to force a relationship just because you’re tired of being single. When we do these things, it’s like we’re saying we don’t trust in the plan God has for us. If you’re single, embrace it. Use this time to try new things, to meet new friends, and to fall deeper in love with your Beloved Savior. Nothing will satisfy the human heart other than Christ. When you truly understand that your worth is in Christ and that He is the ultimate lover of your soul, you’ll be content in waiting. God is ever faithful and He never steers us wrong. He’s got a plan and it’s time to start trusting in it.
The Set Apart 